Parenting Plans and Christmas: Your guide to a stress-free holiday

The holiday season, especially Christmas, is typically a time for joy and celebration. However, for separated or divorced parents with Parenting Plans in place (formerly known as Child Custody Agreements), this time of year can feel stressful and challenging.
Balancing the excitement of the holidays with the responsibilities of co-parenting can be complex, but with careful planning and a clear understanding of your legal rights and obligations, you can ensure a happy holiday season for both you and your children.


What does my Parenting Plan say about travel?

The first step to successfully managing the holiday season is to fully understand your Parenting Plan. Parenting Plans are legally binding documents that outline how parental responsibilities and time with the child will be divided. For more information on the different types of custody arrangements, read our blog here.

A Parenting Plan drafted by an experienced lawyer will typically cover specifics regarding holiday arrangements, including Christmas, New Year, Easter, school holidays and other significant celebrations for your family. It may also include provisions around travel, especially if one parent is from another state or country. Understanding the terms of your agreement is vital as it serves as the foundation for making holiday plans.

However, if your Parenting Plan doesn’t address holiday travel or if you wish to make modifications, initiate a discussion with the co-parent well in advance (so for Christmas, start now!). Explain your reasons for wanting to take your child away and work together to negotiate a mutually acceptable arrangement. This may involve proposing alternative visitation schedules or adjusting the regular custody arrangement. If you both agree to the proposed changes, these should be formalised in writing or by amendment to your Parenting Plan to avoid any future disputes.


What if my co-parent denies my request?

If you encounter resistance from the co-parent or cannot reach an agreement through direct communication, legal advice should be sought from an experienced family lawyer, such as Waters Lawyers, where other options may be suggested such as mediation. Mediation involves a neutral third party who can help facilitate discussions and assist both parents in finding a compromise. If all attempts at reaching an agreement fail or if the co-parent is unwilling to cooperate, applying for a court order may be suggested.

If the dispute proceeds, various factors will be considered by the court when making a decision, including the child’s age, their relationship with each parent, and the potential impact on their wellbeing. It’s important to remember that the court’s primary consideration is always the best interests of the child. If your request to take your child away for Christmas aligns with their wellbeing and is consistent with their established routine, the court is more likely to grant your request.

However, keep in mind that court proceedings can be time-consuming and costly, so it’s generally preferable to reach an agreement with the co-parent whenever possible to maintain a positive co-parenting relationship.

Additionally, if you plan to travel internationally with your child, you may need consent from the other parent or a court order to do so, as international travel can involve complex legal considerations, including potential issues related to passport and visa requirements.


When should I start the travel discussions with my co-parent?

Effective communication is the cornerstone of successful co-parenting, especially during the holiday season. Start by discussing your plans well in advance of the holidays. Clear and open communication between parents can help avoid misunderstandings and conflicts down the road and ensure the holiday joy is not dampened for the child.  Be prepared to be flexible and accommodating. Life can be unpredictable, and sometimes unexpected events may require changes to your original holiday plans. A willingness to compromise can make the process smoother.


If you’re considering taking your child away for Christmas, it’s crucial to approach the situation with careful planning, open communication, and a focus on your child’s best interests. Consult your Parenting Plan, engage in constructive discussions with your co-parent, and seek legal advice to ensure a smooth and enjoyable holiday season for both you and your child. Remember, the holiday season is all about creating cherished memories with your child, and with the right approach, you can make it a special time for everyone involved.


At Waters Lawyers, we’re here to help. We offer an initial consultation that’s honest, transparent, and completely free of charge with no obligation. To book your consultation, simply reach out to our friendly reception team at (03) 5996 1600 or visit the Booking page on our website. Let us guide you through the process and ensure your holiday season is filled with joy and peace of mind.

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